Active ListeningAnother tip, based on a few years of experience, is regarding “Active Listening”. I’ve seen some people who are naturals (you’re probably not) and most people need a regular refresher (I’m one of them). These tips are in order of how you should listen with the other person, who has some problem to solve.

1. Provide an opener: “tell me about…<the problem/topic>”

2. Provide responses: Note that casual and frequent use of words and phrases, such as: ‘very good’, ‘yes’ or ‘indeed’ can become irritating to the speaker. It is usually better to elaborate and explain why you are agreeing with a certain point.

3. Restate what has been said: Rephrase it in your own words to show you comprehend what’s being said

4. Clarify what has been said: If you need to understand more, or want to double-check that you understand it

5. Show empathy: “That sounds like a dilemma” and similar phrases help show that you really do care (don’t fake it though)

6. Help explore their options: Not all options need a fix, work-around, or purchase decision right now, but maybe in the future

7. Summarize: Repeat the main points back in a clear and logical way, and ask if you’ve understood it correctly

More tips on active listening, reflecting and clarifying are at:

Other tactics, uses and barriers to active listening are at:


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